If you are reading this today, then it might mean that you are once again facing a hurdle in your life.
Pehaps, just like now, you are thinking what decision to make and what action to take – remember that there is a thin line between the two, this you should not forget. Maybe, you’ve even approached people asking them their opinion about the matter or what would they do if they were in your shoes. They can even share similar stories – in which you may, at some point, either be inspired by or rely on. With this, you need to remember that the story of others is their story. You are making you own, right here, right now – your life, your own story. There is a limitation on how others affect and help you.
Others’ advice can sum up with these things: (as generic as it seems)
1. Follow your heart.
2. Only you will know what to do and what’s best for you.
Risky? Yes, of course it is, since it depends on you. You take the responsibility. Scary? I know, since I am you. But you know what? Life is scary and its all about taking risks. So when faced with a hurdle like this, what would you do?
1. Set or remember your goals. (Believe me, at this point, when I’m writing this – we are so lost. So note to self, we seriously need to set our goals – both immediate and long term)
2. Know the situation. (Think back on what had happen; what caused it to happen)
3. Lay down your options. (Know which action you may take, know their pros and cons)
However in order to do all these properly, you need to do one more thing - know yourself… (in this, we are still working on and always be working on together, you and me, right?)
When you think that you are ready – mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually stable – then make your decision. (At this point, I am not yet emotionally stable… so… yeah I haven’t made my final decision yet)
Know that in whatever decision you make, there would always be a possibility of regret, this you should be aware of. There would always be a trade off; something you have to live with and be accountable of. But remember, ‘regret’ lies in the past in which you should not live in nor dwell on but should learn from. After all, there is a reason for everything. Know this, in every hurdle you face – there lies an opportunity you should realize and you should take.
Happiness and contentment is a vague concept. But it is something that you need to find deep within – hence the need to repeat the line: Know yourself.
I know we are always in the process of ‘getting to know you’ and ‘we’ are something that is constanly changing – and no matter how scary ‘change’ may be, it is something inevitable. So if you do change: be better. Improve and grow. Do not settle. You can try something different, something new to you. Try to get out of your comfort zone, Ry.
Lastly, don’t forget to always find a peaceful time – both for yourself and to talk to Him. (which I would be doing after writing this…)
The you that’s also lost right now
“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” – Steve Jobs
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” – Soren Kierkegaard